Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you’re gonna get. ~ Forrest Gump
Life is a pendulum of good days and bad. There is no prediction of how things will turn a month, year or a decade down the line. There’ll be many unexpected twists and turns, you’ll never be able to fathom today. Best way to go about leading life is to go with the flow.
Krishna says, we should take each day as it comes, live in the present, worrying too much about the future or thinking about the past will get you nowhere. You’ll waste precious time of the present contemplating, procrastinating or just getting lost in the whirlwind of ‘what ifs’ and ‘should haves’. Having said that, one should also have some plans, plans that are actionable, not just fantasies of future. Planning is good, procrastination is not. Planning provides perspective to life, a road map for productivity and life ahead. Make plans, that will satisfy your being, something which makes you get up in the morning with a purpose.
Plans here relate to things that’ll help you connect better with yourself. Understand what makes you happy, provides inner peace, elates your being and brings you closer to the supreme. Plans can be short, mid or long term. Range of time can be set as per your prudence and convenience.
Life takes us on a never-ending ride, guided by our parents, teachers, peers and society. We keeping following the norms, keep doing what is right, keep satisfying people and follow the routine set for us by them. Study-Earn-Marry-Have Kids-Raise Kids-The End.
We go through a lot of life changing experiences which leave an everlasting mark on us. Sometimes we don’t even choose the path we are on, we are coerced to get on it as it may reap maximum benefits. But then what, we see our life passing by, doing things we may or may not like and keep following the other norms till the end. Hence time is the most precious commodity and we should have done at-least half of the things on our bucket list before we get married.
15 things you could include in your bucket list:
- Travel solo – traveling unravels a different side to you. Hence most of my friends who ask for a relationship advice, I tell them to go on a trip with their opposites. Travelling solo is a notch higher, it is an empowering experience where different aspects of your brain, senses and physical abilities are tested.
Many entrepreneurs, leaders and gurus have embarked on a life changing journey, which shaped their fortunes, careers and teachings. Try a short trip around your city for a day and then venture forward.
- Learn a new language – it has been proven by science, when you learn a new language your problem-solving capacity, critical-thinking, concentration, multitasking and listening skills are enhanced. It also helps in slowing mental ageing process, as new networks in your brain are created.
New language also helps in creating better social networks and prospects in your job. When you speak to anyone in their local tongue, you become a part of their society/inner circle immediately. It’s a great way to connect, see the world and boost your confidence.
- Cook a meal – in present times we depend a lot on takeaways and home deliveries, which is not only bad for our health but also taxing on our pockets.
Learning to cook is a boon in disguise. As per most of the dating sites, cooking is one of the top qualities which impresses the opposite sex.
As per Vedas (Ancient Hindu scripts) a meal carries the energy of the person cooking it. You never know who did what and what type of energy is the chef in the restaurant carrying, hence if you want to keep your energies untouched and positive, cook your own meal.
Cooking is an art and it very much tickles your creative side and gives a boost in confidence when your meal is accepted and appreciated.
- Volunteer – sharing, helping and giving back to the world is the purest form of love and good one can do. There are many who need our help, we in the current moment, state and being are far better than many who have to fight a battle each day for survival. Hence find a cause that you can relate to and give freely. Always remember, people don’t remember you for your words or actions, they remember you for how you made them feel.
- Start a company – if you are in a corporate job or working elsewhere, you would have sometime in past thought of starting your own. Don’t wait for things to align, support of people or money to pour, just start with what you feel is right. Things will never be perfect, perfection is an illusion, which will only agitate you. Start with whatever you have and keep working towards it. Slowly and steadily you’ll reach the destination you have imagined.
Speaking from experience, corporates value individuals who have taken a chance, so even if you are not able to achieve what you foresaw, you can always get back to the working world.
- Find a mentor – in Sanskrit a mentor/teacher is referred to as ‘Gurudeva’, which is a combination of two words ‘Guru’ (teacher) ‘Deva’ (God), which translates to, teacher is next to God. Most of the possessions in the world are easy to acquire with dedication and hard work, however a mentor who can transform your life, give you purpose and direction is the hardest to find. You’ll find many who would like to be your mentor, but finding that sacred one, who connects with your soul, reads you inside out without you uttering a word, will be God sent.
If you are blessed to find a mentor who connects with you, dedicate yourself in understanding the teachings that will guide you through life. Always put your belief in someone, it’ll give you purpose and peace.
- Save money – it’s as simple as it can get. Life is unpredictable, you never know what may come your way, hence a little bit of preparation is good. Money can provide you that initial stability, while you prepare and fight other battles.
It’s easy to get swayed by ‘Maya’ (materialistic pleasures) and become spendthrift, but control is the virtue here. Be smart while spending, marketeers are becoming smarter by the minute and super computers are being deployed to study your attributes and behaviors. Hence before you buy, just ask yourself, Is it necessary? Will my life stop without it? Is it worth the amount? If you get an affirmative reply go for it, most of our shopping is impulsive and media driven.
Always follow 70:30 principle, spend 70% of your earnings on necessities and luxuries, the rest 30% goes into savings for the unknown.
- Sky dive – there can be nothing more exhilarating than skydiving. There are tons of adventure sports you must try, but skydiving is an experience which is unparalleled to any. A lot of people have the fear of the unknown, but here let go of your inhibitions and just go for it. The thrill, excitement and the adrenaline rush you’ll feel after will be ecstatic.
It is an experience that’ll boost your confidence and self-esteem. One of the innate fears human beings are born with is the fear of falling and when you conquer it in this fashion, you become fearless and bold beyond bounds.
- Travel abroad – go for the thrill of it, with a possibility of an adventure of a lifetime. Living in the same country, meeting similar people and eating the same food narrows your vision of the world. This makes us complacent and ignorant of the beauties and wonders around the world.
No matter what we have read or heard, the experience of seeing a new race and culture broadens our horizon to a different level. We become more open minded and acceptable to changes, acknowledging the irregularities of human beings more profoundly.
- Learn a new skill – learn anything new that interests you. It can be an art form, sport or an offbeat profession like bartending. New skills add new perspective to life. Your cognitive abilities and creativity get a rejuvenating boost. Plus, it open doors to new career and work possibilities which may have been far-fetched earlier.
Adding a new skill to your resume is always assessed positively by present and prospective employers, it shows your capacity to adapt and learn new formats.
- Change profession – many of us start doing a job which we land after our studies. It may be good, bad or ugly, but we feel bound to it. We may drag ourselves every day to it, but we feel, this is destiny. The solace of a monthly pay check, approval from our friends and family and the comfort zone around it holds us back from making any drastic changes. However the longer you wait, deeper the claws of society and commitments hold you back from doing what you like.
Put your heart and soul into whatever you like and you’ll be amazed with the success and glory it brings you. This is the only path to inner-peace and true bliss.
- Learn to dance – dance has multiple benefits from increased muscular strength, cognitive performance, coordination and balance. But the most beneficial is that it gives you an outlet to express. We are bound in our daily lives with rules and regulations, how to sit, stand, talk, walk, eat….dance is a medium, which is boundless. You are free to move the way you like, you are the creator of your own utopia.
Pick any dance form that connects with you and learn. It’ll be your solace in thick and thin, lows and high and will always relieve you from the worldly woes.
- Go offline – with 3G, 4G, 5G and WIFI all around us, we are losing the connect with ourselves and the world around. We are so deep into the web, that we forget the cobwebs around. Hence this is a new entrant – disconnect. Disconnect for a week or more and note the changes in your body, mind and thoughts. It’ll be a detoxifying experience for your entire being.
- Learn to meditate – technology has advanced at a very rapid pace, the developments we see today have progressed 5 times faster than their predecessors. Advancement of technology has brought many boons, but has disrupted the peace of mind greatly. We are consuming media and information at a pace which is not benevolent, making us delusional, confused and unhappy. This in turn is affecting our relationships, health and well-being. The only way out is meditation.
Meditation will help you become calmer and more stable by controlling your blustery thoughts, bringing awareness and attention to vital tasks that’ll help you grow.
- Be a hero – help a blind man cross the road, carry groceries for the elderly, save a kitty from a tree or whatever calamity around you that you can handle with your vigour. Be the hero you want to see save the world. The sense of accomplishment and joy of being the saviour is unrivalled.
Be cautious and don’t get addicted to it.
Life is too short for leaving things undone or postponing for a time when you’ll have more time. There will be no better day and time than today. Make a list of your own and start living the life you always wanted. Every item ticked will be blissful and a step closer to eternal happiness. Heaven is a place on earth!